Rant: The Falsehood Of Western "Rape Culture"

So lately there's been a common trend that I've been seeing in society and social media where men are constantly being talked down to for being "potential rapists" even if they would never even consider such a terrible crime to begin with. There also seems to be this idea that men need to be reminded that rape is wrong and that rapists will stop what they're doing if they're "re-educated"... and speaking as a man myself, this is a fat load of bull. Let me tell you why.

The thing that these people seem to forget about rapists is that they KNOW what they're doing is wrong. They KNOW what they're doing is hurting someone. They KNOW the consequences of their actions. The problem isn't that they don't know better; the problem is that they DO know better, and they just don't care. Heck, they RELISH in the pain and misery they can cause another person. It gives them a rush of power and authority that makes them feel like the strongest person in the world. Thankfully though, rapists are a minority in the United States... which is something that you won't hear these "rape culture activists" admitting upfront, since they'd rather insist that all men are potential rapists -- when in reality most of us are a greater threat to rapists than we are to women! Heck, if I caught one in the act, I'd leave next to nothing for the cops to collect!

Which brings me to yet another fact that I don't see a whole lot of people talking about; the common narrative seems to be "male perpetrator, female victim", and while that does indeed happen, that's not the only rape scenario that plays out in the United States. Did you know that there are female rapists out there also? Yes, believe it or not, there are quite a few women out there who do force men into sex whether they want it or not. But do you ever hear about that in the news? Nope. If a woman rapes a man, he's usually too afraid to admit it because he knows that our society has been conditioned to think that all men will always desire sex even if it was forced upon them. And if he admits that he was in fact raped by a woman, more often than not he'll be mocked and laughed at. That's disgusting to me! And what's worse, if the woman becomes pregnant after the fact it'll ALWAYS work out like this: man gets blamed for having sex with her, man is burdened with parental responsibility, masses feel sorry for the female rapist because she's a woman. Every time!

This brings me to the end of my rant. Make no mistake: rape is one of the cruelest, most vile crimes you can ever commit against another person... but even worse is choosing to trivialize it with stereotypes, victim-blaming, and man-shaming. Rape isn't a male-only crime, nor is it hard-wired into the minds of all men to seek out an unwilling partner. But so long as we maintain the narrative of men needing to be "re-educated" because they're all "dangerous rapists in waiting", we inevitably miss the whole point of what makes the crime so awful to begin with.

~M.D.